The Dolphin Lady™

I am excited to say that the best thing that ever happened to our journey on this earth is the beautiful and amazing process of self-transformation.

Yes it can be scary, yes there will be challenges, but what is on the other side can be the most exhilarating opportunity that can take one to the next level of their life. The life that is deserved... what has been waiting all along.

I think Nike has the best phrase of all for going after the gem, the beauty, the essence of all... it was "Just do it!" Nothing in the way, just trust, have faith and do it. Don't try....just do it.

As I have mentioned before Millennium 3 Education is by far the best set of workshops that are the most powerful in supporting self-transformation and the "Just do it...theory."

After 9 years my son, after living on the streets by his own choice, has surfaced and it is quite incredible. He is getting married and is having a son in the fall.

My brother who has had major surgery and who was living like Howard Hughes...now has an incredible home...the renovation is spectacular and he is on the other side of his recovery.

Thank you Jeff and Hugh for being willing and open to having your lives be different and more in tune with the remarkable and magnificent beings you are!!!!

Thank you all for your hearts and your love.

Love from me, the Dolphins...OH and Truman and Ollie!!!!

Many of you have written to me about my last Blog Message. Thank you for all your notes and for your kindness and support! Many of you wanted to know where Paul was, as you said you wanted to shake him up. I even heard from some very special people that I knew when I was in India.

For me my "Tribute to Love" message was so freeing. To know that I love Paul, will always love him...it was like I had accepted something that I had been fighting for a long long long time. To know with every fiber of my being that in this lifetime I had a beautiful opportunity to love and be loved. I wish that for everyone...the only thing I would change is that they stay together and enjoy the love they feel for years and years to come.

So it is for me to forgive to let go of the idea that anything will happen...I can just be with this self-actualization. I can hug it and feel it in my heart, but most of all I can forgive myself...for the denial, for the anxiety, for the survival mode I have been living in these last five years! I am free! I get to love Paul forever and ever...through life times as he is an extraordinary man, he is doing what is right for him. Isn't that incredible.

To those of you who have never forgiven yourself...do that now just wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a big hug and say "I apologize and I forgive you" for everything. That is what a master does.

Self-forgiveness is so freeing and so magnificent!!!

Thank you all for your hearts and your love.

Love from me, the Dolphins...OH and Truman and Ollie!!!!

I want to share a story with you...I share it with all the love for the two people that this story is about.

It is 2002 the setting is Mumbai, India. It is during the monsoon season in the month of August. I find myself returning with a sadness in my heart not knowing what is in store.... I set my course on busy.

During my first 4 months on the project I had fallen in love with the people of India...especially those that worked for me. Sometimes I would walk around so I could smile at the Indians I was growing very close to.

I remember walking through the halls of the old building I worked in... I turned a corner and saw this man. He looked familiar in a way...it was as if I had known him forever. He turned and I smiled.

The equipment vendor had their training director visiting...I was so glad as she was a woman. Being the only woman EXPAT created a loneliness at times. So it was wonderful she was coming. One day the man that I had seen in the hall had stopped by my office asking for me... We talked. I could feel this excitement building. Then a couple of days later another meeting..I felt like a young beautiful woman whenever he looked at me. I did not even know he was interested until one day we were sitting in my office and he asked me to dinner.

Without knowing it I was falling in love with this man. He was so kind so gentle, loved to laugh...that night we had dinner we laughed so much. I did not want it to end so we planned tennis for the next day.

I must tell you though that only weeks before I met this man I had accepted that love was not an option for this lifetime for me...that maybe I was not meant to meet anyone...then this meeting.

Tennis was fun, we laughed. He kissed me on the check before he left. (I am finding myself falling love all over again as I write this). After tennis we had dinner together with some of the other EXPATs on the project. I was falling in love, but there was this funny sort of feeling sitting there...we had not truly shared lives with each other and there was this thought that he was married. So I asked him and his answer was yes. My heart fell to my toes as I knew I was falling for this man...if I had not already.

I told him that we could only be friends. I pushed him away....but the magnet was pulling and pulling. There was something that was so deep so true about the essence of us. Then I fell down some stairs and broke my wrist...the only person I wanted with me was him...he came running and stayed with me all night long while I was in the Indian hospital I had been admitted to. I was a bit nervous being in a country I didn't know, but he was there and took care of everything and I mean everything. He looked after me like no man had ever before him. I fell in love all over again.

He would call me at night and we would talk forever...we would laugh as the next day we were back to either text messaging or he would come to my office for a visit. The pull was exasperating it was so overwhelming. We wanted to get away together, but my integrity wouldn't let me do it. During one of our nightly talks he told me about how he follows my perfume at the main headquarters where we all work...he would always find me. The things he would say to me... my heart would flutter...would joyously sing a song...to just look at his face.

One day I walked into the office I was using and there on my chair was a beautiful red rose. My secretary said, "He loves you." I was shocked at first as I knew I was in love with this man, but I had no idea he was in love with me....then one day he told me he was in love with me and wanted us to be together...that he needed to tell his wife...my heart sung...this is what I had waited for all my life. This was love..not love like we hear about, but love (friend, partner, lover, etc.)

We were promised to each other, but it was time for me to leave India as my contract was complete. He was staying for another 3 months. One thing I was going home to do was to get my doctor to look at my wrist as since the doctors in India had set it I knew something was wrong.

He took me to the airport in Mumbai and we said goodbye for now...he gave me a letter for the plane. It was so beautiful. It told me how much he loved me. He knew my itinerary...he called me when I landed in Paris, when I landed in Cincinnati and then when I landed in Scottsdale..it was like he was with me as I traveled home.

We spoke almost everyday. I so looked forward to the time when we would be together....I went in for surgery to have my wrist re-broken and reset. He was with me all the way...calling me and IM me messages. Our love was like nothing I had ever experienced before.

Then he returned home and a few days later I got an email from him and I knew he was not going to leave the marriage....I knew I could have stayed in his life, but I loved him and had great respect for his wife and family...I couldn't be the other woman and I wouldn't so I ended it. I went to bed for three days, I laid in the fetal position soothing my heart so it wouldn't break.

That was five years ago and today I find myself still in love with this man. The love has never changed rather it has grown....we have not seen each other in almost five years. We have written back and forth a couple of times, but never have given ourselves the gift of having a life together. I forgive him with all my heart for staying...he was called to do that he stood by his duty.

In these five years I find him still in my heart...no man has even come close and today I know he probably won't show up as I am still comparing him to the man that will always be the man I LOVE with all my heart.

There are days I do not know what to do as the love is just present. So I let it be there that is what serves me...just to let him live in my heart. Do I wish we could be together...oh my yes it would be the most joyous thing of all, but I will not beg and I will not demand...no I will just love him with all my heart...I will love love love him and send him that love each and every day through the cosmos...it is such a better place than denying that it is there or even exists.

I love you Paul more than you know and now I can tuck it away in my heart and when it calls to me I can listen and be with it. I wish you happiness always.

Love you always....


Love from me, the Dolphins...OH and Truman and Ollie!!!!

It constantly amazes me how human beings can stand in the moment and then say, "I will do it later." "I will do it next month."

If it is that the statement lives in the moment, then why not right now, this minute. It is almost as if in the moment there is a calendar, standing from floor to ceiling, calling to us asking that we designate another time for whatever is being contemplated. So willingly we get drawn in and we make the choice from the position of all the other time that exists WE THINK in the future.

What if there was not future? What if there was only this moment? Would I take the leap of faith and do it???

Well I can only answer for me and the answer is if there is value then I will do it NOW, if there is risk I will do it NOW, if it serves me I will do it NOW!

The possibility that opens up that exists in standing for now, the moment, this second and loving myself enough to have what I came here to have...is magical and magnificent.

I am grateful to all that comes in the moment. I have learned that it may not all be for me, but I am grateful for the opportunity to choose, to take a stand for myself...through this I get to give back as some of the choices in the moment serve others, can bring joy to others.

There is only this moment, this moment, this moment LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH to take it on to CHOOSE to live NOW!

The next moment is just as magnificent...but what if in the previous moment you chose now how beautiful would your life be NOW.

I love you ALL!!! Live for NOW...GO FOR IT!!!


Love from me, the Dolphins...OH and Truman and Ollie!!!!

I have found myself so enthralled with the idea and essence of responsibility...Now I come to discover the possibility that perhaps I have been misdirecting myself.

The way that I have been living is in survival not in responsibility...The Context of Survival looks like this...
Duty
Right/Wrong
Control
Victim
Resignation
Separation
Isolated
Have to
Unworthy
Angry
Betrayal
Arrogant
Submissive
I'm not good enough
Shame
Martyr
Selfish
Guilt

These are all misconceptions of responsibility. They are all the Ego's way to survive and they are all based in Victim.

From this moment forward I choose to be responsible for everything. What that means to me is...

I AM THE SOLE UNCONTESTED AUTHOR OF MY LIFE....I AM the SOURCE and I AM the CAUSE...SO THROUGH EVERYTHING I EXPERIENCE AND AM THE EXAMPLE FOR/OF TO MY CHILDREN AND THE WORLD...I choose to give it....I WILL give LOVE, JOY, MAGNIFICENCE, ENLIGHTENMENT.

For me I am having the experience of discovery..... that the man I love so deeply walked away from the possibility of years and years of true love to stand in his responsibility of duty and resignation... for that I am so so so sorry. My journey now gets to be immersed in love for all and for all things...even NOTHINGS! I give him love no matter where he is I send him love.... and my apologies.

What if we were all Masters of the destiny we create...what a beautiful world we get to live in and what amazing children we get to EMPOWER!!!!!

Love from me, the Dolphins...OH and Truman and Ollie!!!!

It has been a few months since the last time I uploaded a message.

I hope that all of you are having a tremendous beginning to 2007!!! For me it has taken on the essence of a high speed train like they have in Europe. One moment I am here and the next moment I there!!! You know though it is just a story, the story I get to tell myself and it is not even true.

The last three months have been a time of true inspiration. I have discovered beyond a doubt what inspires my heart and soul. It is "Being in Service". It is also "Gratitude".

I got to look after my brother who had major surgery. I got to clean out his home and set-up an apartment for him to live in temporarily while his home is being renovated. I got to bring him home from the hospital and take care of him. I got to learn about emergencies and how they can be handled in a way that is not stressful. Wow, what an opportunity I had to even get closer to my brother. We were born on the same day...yet we are one year apart. He is older. I felt so privileged to have had the time and the opportunity to support him.

I also got to stand for the Millennium 3 Journey...I got to staff Basic 163 in November, I was Captain of Basic 164 in January and I am Team Captain for Basic 165...it is so incredible! The opportunity to stand for all those that are transforming their life is magnificent!

I also got to attend "Loving Myself" a workshop that is so fabulous and extraordinary. It is offered by YES & Company. I also got to staff and co-lead a "Trust Love" a workshop also offered by YES & Company.

To Serve is ingrained in my heart it is with gratitude that I take on each and every opportunity that there is to be of service!!!

Love to all of you!!!

Never hesitate to serve another or be of service it will light your world in a way that is truly glorious!!!

Love from me and the dolphins... Truman and Ollie too!!!

Do Not Take Myself so Seriously...


Have you read the book "The Four Agreements"? For me it is my bible...my favorite agreement is the one above.

I find that so many of us human beings, if asked, would write the book of their life as a non-fiction drama. Life tends to be taken so seriously when it comes to the self and how the self looks to the world.

As humans we are not our body, nor our ego, nor our thoughts, nor our results, etc. Ultimmately we are beautiful, light filled soulful beings that deserve exactly what we want. The path to get there and have it all needs to be viewed as an inspiration and joy. That the humor and playfulness of all that is, can be written into the pages of our biographies.

I love to laugh and so do the dolphins...they are so beautiful and playful as they move through the water! No thing on their side is taken seriously.

So as we move into the holidays... move into being the joyous human being you are...and DON'T take yourself so seriously.

Much love and joy...

Blessings to you all...until next time!

Love from me and the dolphins...OH and Truman and Ollie!

I am noticing how busy I am getting while on the mainland...it is truly exhilarating, but at times can be so overwhelming. What I have discovered about myself, when this happens, is that I begin to say things like, I do not have enough time, I don't have enough bandwidth, there is soooooo much to do.

I stop and think of my dolphin friends who would probably say, "Let go of your thoughts about the way it is and re-create your reality!"

This is something that I am allowing in my life...the idea of re-creating my reality. I can do this and it will be easy, this will be my mantra!

Then one day I was with some dear friends, they are actually part of my Leadership Program team. They are all so amazing. They tend to be my dolphins on land as they challenge me to stretch and be in my truth. In fact they said to me, "If your plate is full...then get a bigger plate!" How appropriate and how easy...just what I asked for.

How big is your plate? Are you saying things like, "My time is spread to thin, I haven't got the time for anything else, etc. Then get a BIGGER PLATE." How simple!

So I get to keep this BLOG message simple and laser!!!

By the way, I did a ropes course this past weekend and it was absolutely magnificent!! I stood on top of a 40 foot pole and jumped off!!! Yeah I pictured myself jumping in the ocean and to my dear dolphin friends!!!


Blessings to you all...until next time!

Love from me and the dolphins...OH and Truman and Ollie!

I am a little late with my message this month. I have been on the road since the end of July. In many ways, after being in Hawaii for the last year, it is strange not to walk down to the beach to have my daily swims with my dear friends. I miss the beauty of the water, seeing the sun's reflection and the dolphins racing through the ocean's depths.

Initially my journey here on the mainland was to fulfill various speaking engagements and facilitate several workshops. However, I am discovering that it is more of a transformational journey that I am on rather than it being about the work I am doing.

Twenty years ago I participated in a workshop series facilitated by Context Training Corporation. The three workshops were "The Pursuit of Excellence", "The Wall" and "The Advancement of Excellence". At that time of my life it was the most phenomenal experience I had ever had. I learned many many things about myself. Many months later I had met the dolphins.

Since being in Dallas I have taken the Millennium 3 Journey it consists of The Basic, The Advanced and The Leadership Programs. All I can say is WOW. It is truly the most incredible journey I have ever been on to include my Context Training experience. I have rediscovered myself, but more importantly I have found my POD on land.

I find that my workshops, relationships and business projects flow so smoothly just as the dolphins do when they move through the ocean waters. Also this feeling that has settled over me that I have found my pod on land has totally rejuvenated who I am.

The dolphins have always guided me with this sense of urgency, as their wish for human beings is for us to move forward and align with what it is we are here to do. As humans we buy into all the beliefs, fears, thoughts, and pain of our ego body and mind that it becomes a path completely away from what our higher self knows. Finding the essence of the moment is so important...listening very carefully to the synchronicity, the flow, the rhythm is what guides us to the music. The music of what we are here to do.

Millennium 3 Education's journey is set up in such a way that one gets right into moment and has the permission to open up that place of greatness within them. To then take the hand of this magnificent being that I am and walk forward in the grace of all that I am here to create. The methods and exercises that enable this are the most powerful I have ever experienced.

Thank you my dolphin friends for encouraging me to leave the islands and go on this magnificent journey. I love you all!!!


Blessings to you all until next time!

Love from me and the oh and Truman and Ollie too!

I am getting a late start with my August messages. I have left the islands for a few months. Already I have been on the road for two weeks and just now I am getting settled for a long stay in Dallas, TX. It is amazing though as I can hear my dear friends calling to me and guiding me. They are amazing.

My sense is that some of you are asking...How can I hear the dolphins while I am traveling away from Hawaii. Well partly it is due to our strong heart connection. Sometimes I just feel their communication as a tickle in my heart. They have been like a family to me for almost 20 years now.

Mostly I find myself listening very deeply in the moment...it is as though there is no other reality for me, but the one instant where I know that I am absolutely and completely one with my source/spirit. It is that place of calm knowing, trust, and faith that all is well. This is the time when I can visualize the dolphins swimming around me, loving me. They are very excited about this trip for me. They want me to share their message with human kind.

Their message is basically to find the moment where source/spirit speaks to you. It is in that moment that your greatness and brilliance shines. It is not about speaking intentions or wishes or even desires in that moment it is about listening to all that YOU are.. The plan (your divine plan) is already set in motion as you are on that course and it is perfect in everyway.

Take a moment and recall a time when you heard your source/spirit speaking to you. What did you hear? How did you respond? Have you experienced it again or since? How many times? I hope you will write - joy@thedolphinlady.net - and share your experiences with me.

These moments are so precious...they are glorious! Stay connected don't drift off...just be in the moment, now, right now, don't leave, just stay there...isn't it magnificent..isn't it remarkable?

YES...it's YOU!!! Listen!


Until next time!

Love from me and the dolphins....Oh and Truman and Ollie!

It takes so much courage to be in this place. I have been here before so it is not so much uncomfortable as it is intense. Letting go of everything - the expectation, the dreams, etc. - and handing it over to source. Letting go...I can hear my inner voice begin to SAY, "Well that wasn't smart at all you must stay in control".

What I am coming to find out is that is just it, the thought that I need to control something or someone. Why would I want to even consider doing that...I have the amazing role of looking after myself and being in control of my responses to all that is in front of me...within the relationship with myself and others. That is enough responsibility for me.

Webster's Dictionary defines surrender as - to give possession of or power over. The act of giving up.- For me, this is not at all what I believe it means to my source or to my spiritual being. Surrender means letting go of the constant and consistent focus on the process, in which how whatever I want will happen. Does my spirit ultimately know the outcome? Yes I believe it does, but in order to live in the moment my humanness must let go of all that is the process. I know for me I find myself wondering what is going to happen and my inner voice says things like... "If I concentrate really hard on this then this will happen or that will happen" and on and on it goes!

Surrender can be the greatest space to learn from, as I believe it is one of the biggest muscles we end up building within ourselves. When the muscle it sturdy and strong then our intuition gets instantly when it serves to surrender. As we are building the muscle, surrender can seem so lonely and empty, but that just means we are ascending to the level of mastering surrender.

I have been here before and I have arrived again, this time it is a time to rejoice that the muscle is strong and once again I will master this, I know I will. As I write this the dolphins are leaping out in the cove, I know they are agreeing with the statement that I have mastered surrender no mater how it may feel in the beginning. I love you guys...thank you for your GREATNESS!!!

If you are experiencing a time where surrender will serve you contact me I am here, I will hold your brilliance with it, I will help you build the muscle...I will be your personal trainer!!!
Email me joy@thedolphinlady.net The dolphins and I are here.

BLESS YOU - LET GO AND LET FLOW!!!

Until next time!!!

Love from me and the dolphins...oh and Truman and Ollie!

Today is July 2nd. It is my birthday! I am not ready to share my age yet even though it is just a number!!! Maybe later.

Many years ago the dolphins shared a life changing experience with me, one that would empower me to realize that every year when I have a birthday...I am reborn. Being reborn I have the opportunity to look at things in my life in a whole new way, from a different place.

It basically stems from the idea that during the year of my birthday, life continues and things happen. Some of these things that happen have happened before, however at this time as an older and wiser human being I can deal with the circumstances differently. This is when I rejoice at the thought that I am a Spiritual Being having a human experience.

When things happen in life my intention, for awhile now, has been to accept whatever it is and then make a choice about it. I recall a time many many years before my rebirths when I would not accept, but rather what I would do is resist them. The resistance then would turn into resentment and then in some ways revenge...NOTE: the revenge ended up being on me.

After moving through now 53 rebirths - YES that is my age. I have discovered how much easier it is to allow myself to view things from this new unconditional, loving, accepting, and harmonious existence with such a free spirit. I may not always agree with what is happening, but I accept it on every level of my being ness.

I have a feeling that many of you readers are asking..."What was the life changing experience?" It was my first opportunity to witness a dolphin being born! It was such an incredible event to observe...so freeing. I remember that day in the water with tears in my eyes as I watched this little dolphin come through the birth canal into the depths of the ocean...he knew instantly he needed to take a breath. I was speechless for days.

Today after witnessing over 25 births and moving through a journey of self actualization I find it so easy to accept all that is. I guess mostly it is due to my unrelenting devotion to faith.

The first dolphin I witnessed being born was Hercules. I gave him that name as when he swims through the water it is as if you can see every muscle in his body. That's Hercules!!! To this day from a distance I can even tell when it is him making amazing spins in the air. Thank you for your friendship Hercules.


Blessings to you all...until next time!

Love from me and the dolphins...oh and Truman and Ollie!